Other than having the memories, this will be the worst torture you will ever go through. If you have married a woman of any strength and character, she won't forgive you when you get caught - and you will get caught. Everyone gets caught. When you are caught, be prepared for the most gut wrenching type of divorce. Better get your assets transferred in advance to the Canary Islands!
Let's talk about this for a minute. Unfortunately, we all have to admit that there is nothing in life more thrilling than a new romance. And if you are married, the only way to get that feeling is to cheat on your wife. I have observed many of my clients going through this procedure, and the funny thing is that usually the mistress hardly holds a candle to the wife. I mean, Hillary Clinton is no knockout, but is a supermodel compared to Monica Lewinsky. The only thing challenging about marriage is staying married. As far as romance is concerned, zip, nada. It seems like once you say "I do," the romance factor is "I don't." It becomes a very similar situation when you have a lover. Love fades, whether it is an affair or a marriage. Now you double the trouble. You have a spoiled, expensive lover and no romance. You have to see the same movies twice, sometimes three times a week. It is a curse, one that is larger than the curse of marriage. If anyone would like to speak to me regarding these issues, I would be happy to amplify them.
Ben Franklin once said, "all cats are gray in the dark," hence, they all become the same. The first gal that you married, the one that you bought the 3 carat engagement ring, the 5 carat tennis bracelet, and the south sea pearl earrings, is as good as any other you will find. Be content with your life and your wife. For those ladies who are cheating, be careful, a lot of people get murdered over that very thing. Your husband may have a dark side of which you are not aware. This could put you in a very dangerous situation.
I'm married for 15 years, and I miss the attention that I got during the first five years. But the alternative is terrible. Lose your wife, lose your friends, lose your money... Hardly a week goes by that I don't meet a woman that I could romance, but I don't, and I won't. The alternative is severe and lasting pain.
Some men I know that are playing around are hooked on love. If you're in a really unhappy relationship, you'll be amazed how quickly things will change.